Are we watching history repeat itself right before our eyes? Because this Chris Brown & Rihanna debacle sounds like the movie,”What’s Love Got To Do With It?” And I’m not the only one making that observation.There are polls asking if you think that Chris Brown & Rihanna are the new Ike & Tina Turner.
Since it’s been revealed that there was prior abuse,I would say that Rihanna & Chris Brown should hold that title.Especially since Rihanna has allegedly gone back to Chris Brown. If so,she can look forward to having the same abusive kind of relationship that Ike & Tina had! Good luck with that,girl! Here’s more on that from the Chicago-Sun-Times:
From all we saw, the two seem clean-cut. More than a few parents probably thought, now these are entertainers we don’t mind the kids’ emulating. They’re both incredibly attractive. Rihanna always is dressed in the hottest fashions, dazzling us with that gorgeous smile of hers. No paparazzi photos of her flashing her private parts or falling down drunk like so many other young female entertainers. It sounds corny but it’s true: Rihanna seems ladylike.
Brown’s a cutie too, and he gives off a good-guy image. It’s not unusual to see him in a tie and preppy attire, rather than the straight-off-Cellblock-Five wardrobe so many other young male singers wear.
And their relationship, at least the part we see in the media, seemed pretty wholesome. I mean, we saw photos of them on a date at an amusement park. How old-fashioned is that?
We like to think that a male who is abusive will look the part. Well, it doesn’t always happen that way. This incident compelled me to pull out my copy of I Closed My Eyes: Revelations of a Battered Woman, Chicago journalist Michele Weldon’s candid book about the domestic violence in her former marriage to what seemed like the perfect guy.
“A man who becomes abusive does not have horns, drool venom, sweat poison or even warn you that he is not what he seems. No, he is most likely the one your girlfriends wish they had married. He is most likely the man in the room they all wish they knew better,” Weldon writes.
Celebrities like to stand in the spotlight when things are going well. This time, for the sake of impressionable teens, we need Rihanna and Brown to come forward. They need to be good role models in this situation as well. We need to hear them talk about what professional counseling they’re undergoing to make sure there’s no future abuse. Brown saying he’s “saddened, reflective,” isn’t gonna cut it.
If teenage girls are willing to get their hair cut like Rihanna and buy the makeup she touts, what other behavior will they consider following? How many young men will think, well, if Chris Brown can do it. . . . Somehow, we’ve got to get the message to our teens that this time, we don’t want them to be like Chris Brown and Rihanna.”(End of Excerpt) Read the rest here.
But,what’s really a shame is that Rihanna could really take a stand against domestic violence. On this issue,though,Rihanna’s silence is deafening.Unlike a lot of women worldwide,Rihanna’s case has received a lot of attention & people are on her side.In many countries,the abuser is the one who receives the sympathy,as if the woman caused the abuse! Here’s more on the international fight against gender violence from IPS News:
“A 113-page landmark U.N. study on gender violence says women continue to be victims of sexual harassment, human trafficking and blatant discrimination worldwide.
Violence against women persists in every country in the world as a pervasive violation of human rights and a major impediment to achieving gender equality,” says the first-ever in-depth report on gender violence released Monday by U.N. Secretary-General Kofi Annan.
Such violence is unacceptable “whether perpetrated by the state and its agents or by family members or strangers, in the public or private sphere, in peacetime or in times of conflict.”
The study, which is critical of U.N. member states that have failed to adopt laws criminalising violence against women, was drafted by an advisory committee of 10 high-level internationally recognised experts in the field of gender violence.
At least 102 of the 192 member states have no specific legal provisions on domestic violence, while marital rape is not a prosecutable offence in about 53 countries.
Only 93 states have some legislative provision prohibiting human trafficking. “Where legislation exists, it is often inadequate in its scope and coverage and/or not effectively implemented,” the report notes.
It also points out that many member states do not have sufficient support measures in place for women victims of violence.
“They also lack systematic and reliable data on violence against women that is needed to inform strategies to overcome such violence.” In addition, it says, discriminatory traditions, customs and stereotypes persist that perpetuate discrimination against women, placing them at risk of violence.
One European study quoted in the U.N. report says that of the 1,322 marriages across six villages in Kyrgyzstan, nearly half of the marriages were the result of kidnappings, and that as many as two-thirds were non-consensual.
In Britain, a Forced Marriage Unit established by the government has intervened in 300 cases of forced marriages a year.
And according to official crime statistics in India, 6,822 women were killed in 2002 as a result of violence related to demands for dowry – the payment of cash or goods by the bride’s family to the groom’s family.
The U.N. Population Fund (UNFPA) has estimated that 5,000 women are murdered by family members each year worldwide in “honour killings” – crimes against women in the name of safeguarding “honour” within the family or the community.
According to the U.S.-based Alabama Coalition Against Domestic Violence, “40 percent of teenage girls, ages 14 to 17, say they know someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend – and one of five college females will experience some form of dating violence.”
Jessica Neuwirth, president of Equality Now, said the new U.N. study is clear and comprehensive, and it notes repeatedly the connection between violence and discrimination against women.”(End of Excerpt) Read the rest here.
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